In college, I got to know an elderly couple who took a real liking to me, and they would often have me over to their house and take me out to dinner. While they were nothing but kind to me, their relationship with each other was incredibly hostile. Every conversation would turn into an angry shouting match, and they could barely relate to one another without harsh words or bitter criticisms.
While I don’t know this couple’s history or how they came to interact this way, the relationship they had is sadly all too common. Marriages are crumbling, and the divorce rate is creeping above 50%. And while the Church has always defended the indissolubility of marriage, it is a tragic reality that Catholics are civilly divorcing at essentially the same rate as everyone else.
The causes of this breakdown of marriage are many, but really, the solution is simple. We who are called to the vocation of marriage must love our wives. Let’s face it, we ultimately can’t change anyone’s marriage but our own. In the face of marital collapse on a massive scale, our Catholic marriages must be a prophetic witness of joyful life, fidelity, and love.
So with that said, here are 25 ways to tell your wife you love her. There are hundreds more!

Listen to her and care about what she has to say
Show her physical, non-sexual affection
Surprise her with flowers
Take her out to dinner (without the kids)
Buy her a book she’s been wanting
Write her a love note
Wash the dishes
Check something off your honey-do list
If you have babies, change a diaper
Let her go out with her girlfriends sans kids
Open the door for her
Pray with her and for her
Apologize to her when you sin
Forgive her when she sins…never hold a grudge
Ask her advice
Pay attention to her pet peeves and avoid them
Take her shopping
Fast for her
Understand and comfort her fears

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